In last week’s blog I touched on my demon, (alcohol abuse), where it started and ended. This week’s piece takes the topic deeper and draws a parallel to dealing with the demon, and dealing with your life and wellness.
I became a problem drinker as a release, and as I stated previously it was a slow descent, however by the time I reached my bottom, the tipping point it was a daily occurrence. The stresses of life, work, children, divorce, abuse, it all adds up. I think everyone can empathize with one or more of those issues, and as the world gets busier, as our economy continues to contract and change,(especially in Michigan), more pressure is heaped on the existing heap. How to deal with it all of these issues, is the million dollar question.
Taking the easy way, the quick fix, that’s how, and that’s exactly what I did. Who cares if it’s a terrible thing to do for your long term health, heck I was in my 20’s and 30’s no worries right. I never had that drunken driving arrest or conviction, was a single dad (for most of that time), maintained a steady job, hey who is to say I have problems, who cares if I was selfish and only thinking of myself.
When you live for the after work cocktail it’s no buddies business but mine, right; well not exactly.
Everyone has someone who depends on you for something, and when you put yourself at a distinct disadvantage through abusive behavior whether you realize it or not you are being selfish. You can’t be your best when you are hung-over and dehydrated, overweight and eating terrible food, there is just no way.
I can speak for myself, and I am, all of this I have gone through and then some. The point is you don’t have to live this alone and you can get it back, you just need to decide that abusive behaviors are in fact selfish, that you make your own decisions in life to compensate for stress in a positive way, not through substance abuse.
I am one to tell you that losing over 50 pounds, (in large part to quitting the sauce), gives you a new energy level, a new outlook. And will propel you forward and help your body to cope with all of life’s trials and tribulations.
That getting a fitness program started will add years back on to your life, that eating healthy food will give you that younger feeling and help you rest better, that dealing with stresses does not have to be done in a negative light.
People make choices in life, and I am here to tell you that if I can do this, so can you! That making that time to prepare your lunch the night before work, that getting up a little bit earlier to stretch or do a little bit of cardio or strength training, is a commendable goal, and it is up to you.
Stop being selfish, start thinking about taking better care of yourself, and commit to improve, set one goal and build on that. I am sure there are people out there need you and you deserve the best quality of life possible.
Small steps lead to big improvements, make yourself a better person, today.
Thanks for reading,
Selfishness can be a terrible quality; however it lives daily in all of us.
Use it in a growth way by creating positives in your life, and become a better person for your effort.
“A man is called selfish not for pursuing his own good, but for neglecting his neighbor’s.”