So the chickens are flying the roost!
Arriving at the years in your life where long term responsibilities, specifically caring for children, are going to end is inevitable for every parent. The days of constant busyness, dealing with the active performer or athletic children/teens will eventually reach its conclusion; eventually we all will call our homes “empty nests”.
This can be a very liberating or frightful period, it all depends on how we manage the time and our emotions, Psychologists refer to this as ‘Empty Nest Syndrome’.
As defined by Psychology Today the ‘Empty Nest Syndrome’-
“The feeling of depression, sadness, and/or grief experienced by parents and caregivers after children come of age and leaves their childhood homes. This may occur when children go to college or get married.”
Personally Sandy and I are living this right at this moment, with our youngest now off to college, and to be honest it is an adjustment. Thank goodness we have been building the foundation and ‘nurturing our network’ of activities, friends and projects. If you have not been building your foundation, fear not, here are some ideas that can enable your bridge to the next phase of life.
- Teach financial basics, how to write a check and the dangers of credit cards
- Encourage the independent spirit
- Pay for their cell phone
- Avoid building a ‘shrine’ in the now empty bedroom
- Build your personal activity dream list (and post it where you see it, a lot!)
- Give time to yourself, exercising, reading, sleep
- Share your feelings with your spouse or significant friend
- Nurture your network of friends and make new ones
- Go back to school
- Restart your career/ volunteer at a local charity or hospital
- Allow plenty of time to adjust, up to two years
Your success is your job, be excited about the potential and LIVE!